It can be difficult for a teacher to build relationships with students because, well, we’re older. We don’t live in their world, but we do share similar experiences from when we were young. Even if it’s talking about what’s for lunch or where they got their shoes, students like to know we’re human and actually interested in the same little things they are. It’s easy to get caught in academic routines that prevent spontaneous interactions with students.
If we want them to speak in front of the whole class, they have to trust us and know we’re not judging them like strangers on the internet. We live in a democracy so it’s essential that students can speak their mind and not just listen to lectures and complete individual seat work.
Here are five ways to build positive relationships with students:
1. Introductory activities
At the beginning of the year, I ask students to write down their activities and hobbies on an index card. This way, I can ask about their sports teams or the upcoming play. I tell them to write down whatever they want – their religion, ethnicity, travels, family, or their favorite band, movie, or athlete. I also ask them to say their name so I know how to pronounce it. The first few discussions involve light topics so they know it’s easy to share their thoughts.
2. Storytelling
I never shy away from telling a story about my family or life experiences. Whenever I run into old students, they never want to talk about what they learned. One remembered a story I told about how I was on Broad Street in Philadelphia after the Phillies won the World Series in 2008. Students always ask about my weekend and that’s another great opportunity to talk about sports or traveling.
3. Choice reading
Students are more likely to share their thoughts if they choose the topic. I usually provide many options or sources in case something catches their eye. I pick essays that function as models for how I want them to sound in their own writing.
4. Open ended writing
In addition to choice texts, students should be able to write on a variety of modern topics and combine elements of exposition, personal narration, and argumentation. Writing prompts should be given in a way where students feel the same sense of freedom they do when writing in a journal. I will ask students to summarize their essay in an online discussion board so they feel comfortable sharing their responses with the class on a projector.
5. Conferences
When I hand back essays, I leave time for students to approach my desk and quickly conference. These short conversations help me build relationships with my students. I also circulate around the room to comment on their posters or help them understand a difficult passage before they present to the class.
Teacher's Workshop, professional development for secondary ELA teachers
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